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Dear Nancy,
Second guessing yourself going down the line to the jump or even as you enter the show ring?
When riders call me for a sample coaching session, they want an instant solution to all their problems. One call, instant star!
But here's the problem; I don't even know you.
So why offer free coaching calls?
Yes, I can point out a hidden issue and provide some insight, tips or tricks for some symptoms in the brief time we have on the phone. For some riders, they can't even see what is tripping them up.
There are some universal neuroscience techniques that work for specific SYMPTOMS, however, we have to use the RIGHT one for the RIGHT issue for each unique person.
And the issues going down that line or into the ring are usually many! There ends up being many things we need to tweak with your mindset.
Discovering why you are going down a line to a jump second guessing yourself depends upon who you are, you history, your current life situations, and any potential issues or hidden bombs along your bridle path.
And the meanings that you give to past problems in your riding (and your life).
(Not to mention your mind's ability to psych you out with your riding goals! Or your fear of disappointing your trainer, parents, spouse or friends. It is a long list of potential issues that we can only discover through more thorough conversations.)
Turning that around is the PROCESS of mental skills coaching.
Bottom line is, you are in a state of doubt and lacking confidence. You are NOT going into the ring with ABSOLUTE CERTIANTY.
You are not in the identity or mindset of an empowered Equestrian Rockstar.
You are going into the ring with uncertainty. Without a strong foundation.
But you already knew that when you signed up for a free sample call.
You want THE one, short, EASY answer.
And THAT is how riders get and stay stuck.
Or don't get the massive and lasting results that they were hoping for.
This is their Chef de Saboteur at work ... who knows if he/she can keep you focused on endlessly searching for tips and tricks, the EASY and CHEAP pseudo solutions, you never will have the REAL SOLID RESULTS you want.
That are lasting.
We ALL want the one-stop-shop, magical wand for riding (and our lives).
(Or we will continue our search by reading one more book or taking another "one size fits all" produced course.)
I know. I totally rocked that self-sabotaging plan in my younger years.
(Which was easy to do since I LOVE reading, researching, and taking courses.)
Not that all that research didn't help. I DID collect more pieces of the puzzle.
Problem then was ...
I ended up with a 10,000 piece puzzle dumped on my lap! And that is where it stayed!
I was stuck in that "easy" dream world. (Until I got sick and tired of being sick and tired with my results.)
But this is riding horses. We can't afford a self-doubting, shaky mindset.
Or a mindset on overwhelm; lots of insight and tools, but where and when do all those pieces go in the puzzle?
(So we go into the ring KNOWING those hidden bombs may still trip us up.)
We can't afford to ruin our well trained horses. (It's easier to turn around a rider than a horse.)
We can't afford to spend all this money and to not ride with JOY!
Or to not reach our audacious goals ... while our competitors leave us in the dust!
TRUTH: Nothing turns around and transforms without an ALL IN commitment to have a strong foundation and to learn how to become consistently empowered.
Riding is an ALL IN sport. You are either IN or you are OUT.
And If you have serious competitive goals, you should already know that your mindset has to be ALL IN.
Cutting corners, the easy path, reading, courses, and tips and tricks here and there is DUCK TAPE.
Wanting to tip our toes in on the easy path IS the problem! It is NOT an all in mindset and commitment!
When riders DO commit and sign up to coach with me, I find the EXACT corner pieces of THEIR particular puzzle that I need to put out the fires of the symptoms on the first few calls by showing them neuroscience techniques that match the most pressing issues first.
However. in order for riders to be ROCK SOLID and to not be triggered by anything in their environment, or some new, crazy thoughts in their head, we need prevention!
To perform regardless of what else is going on in your life ... now or in the future ...
We need to get to the bottom of ALL THE REASONS why the symptoms are showing up to begin with!
That is a process of ME helping YOU to understand yourself and giving you an OWNER'S MANUAL of what works for you and doesn't work for you.
We show up as Equestrian Rockstars AFTER we discover ALL the whys for your behavior.
AFTER we quickly dismantle each bomb along that old path of yours.
While we figure out what works for YOU to prevent future potential bombs from triggering you.
And while we create the RIGHT leverages that work for you to adjust and change and move forward.
Note: depending upon your age, life stage, horses (s), trainers, goals, etc., you may have (and not even know about) a list of tricky Chef de Saboteurs that we need to learn how to overcome.
Struggling sucks! Winning is fun!
Joy is there for EVERY rider.
It is a decision to say YES to yourself and to dive in and to invest in building a strong foundation to ride with confidence and joy!
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