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How did Kate Egan become the 10th place juior rider in the country ...
From the Maclay at the National Horse Horse on Sunday night?
Out of 220 riders!?
Mind you, this was her first Maclay finals ...
AND her new horse!
That is a lot of uncertainty.
And lots of opportunities to allow the "squirrels" in your head ...
Or your physical biology ... (It is a loooooong day!)
To trip you up and hold you back.
Or to simply not do your absolute peak performance.
The simple answer is ...
1. She was willing to DO THE WORK in my mental skills coaching program.
2. And she was consistently coachable.
3. She stopped telling herself stories like, "I did the best I could do" even though her performane proved otherwise.
4. And she was hyper focused on the details.
Here are some of the details of WHAT SHE DID DO;
She not only signed up for my peak performance mental skills bootcamp last winter season ...
She COMMITTED TO it and worked it with peak performance.
She did not miss one session, of the 24, except for a brief family vacation during school vacation.
She also did not reschedule any of them ... with the exception of a couple of Dr. visits ...
AND she showed up on time. As in ... with immaculate timing! Two zeros showing on the time clock .. not a minute late.
EVER!
(Beause how important is timing in jumping horses? How important is good, consistent habits?
How important is self-discipline in sports, careers, and life?)
"I was shocked at how tough you were right from my first session," she told me yesterday.
Twenty-four hours prior to our coaching sessions, she filled out my online form on ...
What her successes were, what she wanted to accomplish and didn't, and what issues she feels she still needs to improve upon.
She came prepared to the session to apply effort, to ENGAGE in the process, and to think through her answers instead of copping out with ...
"I don't know" answers. (Please spoon feed me the answer.)
She ALWAYS had a plan for what more information and help she wanted to get out of me.
And she learned how to speak up and took extreme ownership for using her voice to get the same from her trainer!
(Even the top trainers can't read our minds!)
She stayed on course with our sessions ...
Even though she may not have been thrilled with the honest feedback I gave her.
She read her weekly "after session" notes that I emailed her. She read my monthly newsletters.
She read and studied my book.
She listened to the audios. She watched the mental skills videos I sent her.
She studied her own videos, with her trainer ...
And she studied the videos of the top riders/trainers in her division.
She learned EARLY ON and practiced how to turn off being emotionally triggered.
To stop spinning around in thoughts and feelings that weren't serving her.
And how to reframe people, places, and things so she could become more resilient ...
Quicker. (The very definition of being coahcable.)
After she finished her bootcamp with me, and had a successful summer showing around the country,
She experienced some new "regional pressures" and immediately signed up with me for my "circuit coaching" to work on finals for the year.
In addition to those weekly sessions ...
She called me from all the big events (she came in 3rd at PNHS) to include the National Horse Show ...
A few hours prior to going into the ring.
(This was not because she was nervous; but for a "check under the hood" and to strategize.)
She called me after classes and before the next one to "tweak" her prior class ...
So she could make adustments.
Sounds like a lot of work?
THIS is what we do when we are in it to win it.
I have a rule; don't cut corners!
Commit, "burn the boats" (a military strategy), and give it your all!
MIND YOU, SUCCESS IS ALSO ABOUT WHAT YOU DON'T DO!
SO, WHAT DIDN'T SHE DO?
She did not try to redesign my coaching program or treat it like it was a buffet table of options;
"Here's what I am willing to do, and here is my preferred list of things I won't do ...
So change your program to match that, and I'll stay in the program!")
She didn't get an attitude even if she was triggered. (Or at least hid it well!)
She didn't disagree or argue with me.
She was not disrespectful ... not even once, despite the pressures or dissapointments.
And even if she did disagree, she kept the faith and applied the changes anyway.
She didn't assume that just a conversation and an answer with tools would magically work ...
(She ACCEPTED the fact and took action to APPLY the feedback and empowered herself to made the changes!)
She didn't "take a break" and not show up for coaching because there was something more fun to do ...
(There always is on your one day off!)
Or to avoid having the hard conversations about her lack of performance.
And she stayed focused on the end goal and outcome that she DECIDED she was going to have.
Winners are the people that do what everyone else finds an excuse NOT to do!
This takes learning how to condition our brains for consistent discipline.
And DECIDING to be fearless!
Despite the fact that she make it up as high as she did and the season is over ...
Guess who is booked today for the "debrief" of her show so she can figure out how she could have been even better?
Bravo to Kate, not only for all the above I mentioned, but ...
For being a responsible and good steward of her parent's financial investment in my program.
It was my honor to coach her, but she deserves all the credit and applause!
We will receive back, in sports and life, exactly the amount of effort that we put in!
Every time.
Generate the results you DEMAND of yourself today!
Nancy Dye
Peak Performance, Mental Skills Coach
Emotional Strength and Resiliency Trainer
Strateic Interventionist
1-561-866-0402
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